This is a thought I had today of
the word hate and how Hurt vs Hate, How Hurt can Be fixed and hate cannot be- and How bad the word hate is.
too often I hear people use the word hate every time they are hurt.
Why because it is a most painful word.
I have heard Children say it to their parents, parents say it to their children.
I would like to use real life philosophy on these terms so freely used.
IMHO...
"It is hurt people that hurt people NOT hate people- people who hate are violent people!"
for instance...A Child was told they were hateful when they said bad things to the Parent.
I feel that when a child is hurt they will hurt you, but that is not hate it is hurt.
A Child that cannot hurt or hate anymore will just forget you
and become numb - they will neither hurt or hate, they simply dont want to feel anymore at all.
hurt is usually associated with an emotional reaction, whereas hate is usually associated with a physical reaction.
A Child that says they hate You will hurt You, but usually it is because You have hurt them somehow~ that is an emotional hurt most associated with hurt not hate.
A Child who shoots his parents usually hates not hurts, it goes way beyond hurt and way beyond numb, this is a physical reaction most associated with hate not hurt.(and a mentally destraught person with a vengeance, nonetheless there is hate.) Hurt brings tears/ hate brings violence.
So when you tell someone they hate you, you are wrong- they hurt you- usually because you have hurt them.
when you are family and you tell your child they hate you,
think what you have done that has hurt them.
And instead of saying hate, try to find out why You dont love them or didnt love them and love them so you dont hurt them and they dont hurt you.
but stop using the word hate.
And Like the word love it is thrown around wrongly.
Love is being there, Its not something You just tell someone-
It is something You show and Do- not just something You say.
But neither hurt or hate is Love-
SO dont do either, and if you do hurt someone You should
forgive instead of calling the hateful.
If You choose to call them hateful over forgiving them, You choose not to love them... maybe because you are hurt too,
But thats hurt again, not hate.
Saying hate means you cant love, hurting means just that you are hurting and hurting someone means they have hurt you, doesnt mean you hate them.
Hate can be a painful word, hate can remove love. hurt can forgive and still love.
So choose your words wisely.
If sone says I hate what you did - Ok
But it one says you are hateful- not OK.
If they say you are hateful, they are telling you
they hate you.
If they tell you I hate what you did-
they are saying that thing you did really hurt them.
Because if someone says I am hateful, I wont forgive them.
but if they say I hate what you did- I know it hurt them.
hate directed at a person is an attack on the person's heart and soul.
hate directed at an action, well the action has no feeling
and cannot really feel the pain of the word.
Some friends take nothing and love You anyway
Some take heart and soul and anything they can
But I am certain when I have nothing left to give
God will introduce Me to and I will count on one hand
The ones He meant to give.
1608. PEDESTRIANS WALKING IN OUR ROADS CAN KILL SOMEONE IF NOT THEMSELVES!
by angelcher, 03/27/11 12:43 AM
I would love to petition My neighbors and the town to give fines to pedestrians in the roads, but it is their right. I would love the law to say NO PEDESTRIANS ON ROADWAYS. I was driving home today in the southbound lane of a paved country-rural road with white lines for pedestrians not wide enough to keep people from getting killed. I was going a touch over the speed limit at 50 in a 45 mph zone heading south, A truck was going north on this road in Howell Twnsp, NJ and and at a touch over the speed I was going maybe more- He tore off my driver side mirror, the bang was loud enough to feel my ear pop- He swerved into the yellow lines just around the bend as to His surprise there was a pedestrian walking in the road because the line didnt allow her room to walk safely.I was 4 inches approx from a head on! Thank God I am still here to be so mad and saddened that these pedestrians are a driving hazard and will get 2 people killed because they are ignorant enough to think they are invincible and too bad for the driver is their attitude because after all... "Hey better its me walking instead of You, Lucky You- You have a car!" I was shook I had an accident where someone plowed through me at a stop sign in a car and totally destroyed 3 cars 20 yrs ago and it still was a safer accident than the one that would have been today If He misjudged His squeeze to avoid the ALMIGHTY AND RIGHTEOUS PEDESTRIAN! (who claim to be under-dogs - Hey i respect that, l just wish they came with common decency and respect for the dangers they cause to drivers!I know there cant be a Law- But God knows there should be one! Anyone feel there should be a law?
This happens all the time on this road - and I am sure many back roads. I should lose My life because they need to get from point A to Point B regardless of the Danger they pose! and the towns and everyone who blows money on so many insignificant things just cant afford to widen the roads to give these righteous people a place to walk since they are aloud to- Gee, My Mommy always said "stay in the white lines or walk on the grass if You need to!"
It is such a shame that people who "have the luxury to drive", have to either live with...
KILLING A PEDESTRIAN OR HAVING A HEAD ON COLLISION TO KILL 2 PEOPLE AND THEIR CHILDREN!!
WHO THINKS IT SHOULD BE ILLEGAL TO WALK ON ROADS NOT STRUCTURED FOR PEOPLE TO WALK ON?
And the movie is priceless! God Bless All of those Who have battled cancer and Bless those who have passed on to Heaven and and their families and friends. Amen to that. Cher
The Red Kits of Bombay Hook NWR I loved the summer I met these precious and beautiful animals. I learned they need to be safe in their environment and that they are a rare and special animal- So incredibly beautiful. They need to be kept safe in the Refuges and not spoiled by man - So that they may live in the wild and prosper on this earth. If You see one they will captivate You beyond words. Let's do all that we can to be sure they strive in the wild- The earth would surely be missing a treasure if man endangered them. Track with Even Wolves Dream by Anthony Miles. – The story so far= 3:13Allowed by You Tube Tags:
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The Red Kits of Bombay Hook NWR
I loved the summer I met these precious and beautiful animals.
I learned they need to be safe in their environment and that they are a rare and special animal- So incredibly beautiful. They need to be kept safe in the Refuges and not spoiled by man - So that they may live in the wild and prosper on this earth.
If You see one they will captivate You beyond words. Let's do all that we can to be sure they strive in the wild- The earth would surely be missing a treasure if man endangered them.
Track with Even Wolves Dream by Anthony Miles. – The story so far= 3:13 Allowed by You Tube
I did love the way I had Bryan Adams "This Is Where I Belong" on it- but copyright laws prohibit it.
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Try getting out of paddock - Making Mommy a Nervous wreck- silenced
Muted the one where He got out on Me, I dont particularly like the Bit- never had one like that But- I will learn it. Doesnt look like much to anyone else (LOL) but when You are nervous- It is and when I was young I had a few horses take off through a threshold to a lake (and swimming), woods and on a trail in a full out gallop! I figured it wouldnt take much for Him to realize Mommy wasnt in control and the first thing that gave Him a reason, He may take off. But he was good considering and I am glad other people were around to help. I talked to the trainer about the bit, it is a curb bit with a shank (A type of Hackamore without the hard piece over the nose (Making it better!)- the only difference in the other type of hackamore is there is No bit in it at all, I assume like the Bosel but it has a shank. A Bosel is great If Your horse will whoa on command. which Mine always does. The curb bit with shank is better than the original hackamore with the over the nose shank with a bit. The trainer told Me it was fine to give Him a carrot for finally whoaing- though I leaned forward and pulled back which made Him back-up instead of completing His turn. All In all other than having to keep telling Him whoa, which She said was also a good thing as it kept Me breathing which relaxes the horse- (sounds silly saying it on video But worked to my advantage) I did good but got nervous walking Him in so I asked Her to walk Me in, then She walked with Me So I can get Him to see I was still in control and was then able to dismount Him. The main Key is to sit back with this bit and pulling on it wont matter but to sit back and push legs forward and keep them not so snug on the horse